mother knows best.. do we really?

Thinks 'mother knows best' is a bit overrated. #rookie
— ulma n. haryanto (@ulma_nh) August 5, 2013

If there is ONE thing that really stressed me out after 10-months of mommyhood is WHAT TO FEED THE BABY. I mean, for me, I ENJOY eating. I love food. I couldnt wait to give Navis his first taste of whatever. Little did I know, me and my baby weren't on the same page. This is what I first thought of baby feeding: Tossing whatever from the table and baby will chew/gum happily Boy I was wrong! Okay the first couple of weeks was relatively easy. I had the whole thing figured out (or so I thought). I'd cook his meals in big batches, freeze them in ice cubes and ready for reheating anytime of the day.

Yes it worked..for a few months. 

Then comes toddlerhood. 

Ok this one was written in August. Yes I was so fed up by people acted as if I know EVERYTHING about my kid. And put on this puzzled look when I said I dont. Come on.. Ive only been with him for less than a year and cant they notice he's growing?? Everyday something inside them CHANGES. plus...how many times i have to say this.. They dont come with a manual! 

Feeding was a nightmare..everything was trial and error. Now it's less so. I know things he would happily chomp (krupuk) and spit out (bananas).

Why do people have kids?

So i was thinking aloud, "Is it instinct when I had Navis, or do I really want kids?"

The reason I asked this is because I did have a passing thought of not having kids. Well actually with Navis it's just sorta happened. Never intended to get pregnant but wouldn't object if I do.

It has always been a tricky question.. Do i want kids? What to do with them anyways? Why do we have to have kids? (Of course we don't )

Our body are engineered to have kids. You have the urge to have sex and sex = kids. Of course nowadays there are contraceptives but they can be so tedious. E.g. with pills you have to take one every day at the same hour. IUD doesn't always work.. Condom is well I just hate condoms. See.. You get this feeling that it's unnatural. No i am not against family planning i am for it. Couples should plan when they want children. And if you don't want any, then go ahead.

So anyways.. Then I have Navis everything in me just switched to mommy-mode. He becomes the most important thing in my life and right now everything I do revolves around him. (Sorry Iko, mom & dad).

So, is this just instinct? Part of our survival thingy as a species? Can you want kids the way you want a particular dress or shoes? (Yes i guess you can).. I wish i could ask my DNA..Am sure this survival instinct is embedded somewhere in our genes: "Is having kids still necessary when human population is way way too much?"

Hellloooooo

Soooo.. I finally made an official "departure" from my previous personal blog (the beloved pip-squeak aka ratsustekuzo aka tikus-ilang aka whatever else i'd named it :D)

At least for a few years (!) I'm gonna update this blog with family, maternal, motherly stuffs.. 

I know this blog still needs editing, layout-wise..I guess this was the only"family-friendly" template i could find 4 years (!) ago.

A little recap of what had happened in the past year (!):

- I gave birth to a lovely baby boy: Navis Sahl Putera in October
- I quit my 3.5-year stint as a reporter to stay at home with my son
- I still do various freelance work: translation, writing, editing, transcribing, heck even trolling ;p
- I started cooking again, albeit on and off
- I started reading 5 books and finished none
- I don't know what movies are playing in the theatre anymore
- The last time I discovered a "new" band was Ellie Goulding

And I've just installed this blogger app for Android that is supposed to motivate me to write more often here rather than wasting my time over at Quora.

Cheerio!